without self-awareness and control, it is difficult, if not impossible, to improve one's relationship with the outside world. for example, if i am not aware of my actions, thoughts, and words, i have no basis for self-understanding. if i have some awareness and self-understanding, then i can ask, what is my impact on others in my current state? if i find that impact to be negative and detracting from my life goals, i may choose to change my actions, thoughts, or words. in emotional intelligence, this change is what we call self-control. it is about knowing and then determining the appropriate volumn level and expression for our emotions. how can these emotions enhance our relationships with others and out life goals? how can they detract from them? thus, self-awareness and self-control are interwined, as self-awareness alone will be of little service without self-control.