About Me
Name: Choo Teck Peng
Nick: Apple
Gender: Male
DOB: 01/02/1986
Horoscope: Aquarius
Character: LONER, Serious attitude problem, kawaii,
simple-minded person that thinks too much...
Email: apple_ah@hotmail.com
Camp: Hendon Camp
Course: Weapon

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Monday, April 30, 2007

Request by Ms Bernice...
haha... okie blogging it now... this is the comment i gave her...

yoz… how life in TP? Teck Peng? haha…

and her reply...

tp? hmm. life in tp is okay. but life outside tp isn’t that ok. lol! but anyohow, i’m still the chirpy me.
how bout u? how’s life?

since u commented here,
i assume i have to do the evaluation for u also. haha.

Comment on this post, and I’ll:
1 - Tell you why I friended you.
because i had a crush on u! :X

2 - Associate you with a song/film.
cao ge’s bao hu ni

3 - Tell a random fact about you.
apple has a few ear piercings

4 - Tell a first memory about you.
you’ve got a firm ass la :P hahas

5 - Associate you with a character/pairing.
erm, apple is apple la. hahas.

6 - Ask something I’ve always wanted to know about you.
ehh. are u attached now?

7 - Tell you my favorite user pic of yours [if it pertains].
i neh see any user pic of urs! cos u’re not in my msn list! so quick! add me now :X

8 - In retort, you must post this in your LiveJournal (LJ). :)
blog it blog it :D

okie... and here is my ans for the qns...

1 - Tell you why I friended you.
because you are my junior in NP and SL board and many more...

2 - Associate you with a song/film.
RiChArD mArX FeAt. dOnNa lEwIS - aT ThE bEgInNin_ [aNaStAsIa]

3 - Tell a random fact about you.
very hard to ask u out... haha...

4 - Tell a first memory about you.
4th january 2003

5 - Associate you with a character/pairing.
dun now y suddenly think of minnie mouse..

6 - Ask something I’ve always wanted to know about you.
other than how life in TP... hmmm... how about 1 qns/day?

7 - Tell you my favorite user pic of yours [if it pertains].
hmmm... dun have any also... will add you if i managed to find ur email...

8 - In retort, you must post this in your LiveJournal (LJ). :)
haha... u did it...

02.15am... suddenly feel so old... diao... noe her since 4+ years ago... ya since 2002...

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Sunday, April 29, 2007

Assumption...
tml will blog about assumption... which i feel is 'looking on the bright side of life...' a bit like giving false hope to ourselves... haha... but can't deny it can be a useful tool to use... hmmm... open our eyes to more possibilities... anyway i blog it... u judge it... hopefully it is useful... =P

00.55am

13.44pm... lets continue...

OTHERS WANT TO SEE YOU SUCCEED, NOT FAIL
assuming others are on your side and care about your success will abate many negative thoughts about how the world views you. if you believe that people would rather see you fail than succeed, then you are forced to be suspicious, overly averse to risk, and otherwise selfconscious. with this new assumption, comments by a supervisor who may indeed have your best interests in mind are not viewed as condemnations but rather as useful mentoring. you can see immediately that if you would adopt this assumption, you would be less inclined to a hijacking the next time your boss says something about your performance.

13.58pm... my sis wanna use the com... =(

15.30pm... lets continue... haiz... =)

OTHERS' INTENTIONS ARE NOT TO HARM YOU
as we master our assumption related to the motives of others, this new assumption helps us to feel trust and safety and frees us to take risks and express ourselves. you still may want to avoid dark lonely alleys late at night, but this new assumption will help you gain a healthy perspective about others.

MOST INCONSIDERATE ACTS ARE NOT AIMED AT YOU PERSONALLY
most of us give way too much credit to the motives of others. most people are not aiming their inconsiderate acts at you. instead, they simply may be misinformed, misguided, or just not paying attention, and you happen to be on the receiving end of behaviors in these situations. more people are simply thoughtless rather than motive driven in creating a bad day for you. if you hang on to the belief that motives lie behind every action, you'll spend your day trying to figure out the grand sheme when none exists.

YOU ARE WORTHY
this might be assumption worth cultivating. too ofen people experience the opposite and, therefore, assume that others think the same. low self worth can leave us feeling defensive and hurt. in the workplace, as you practice feeling worthy, you give yourself the power and freedom to perform at your top level. as long as you believe that you are not worthy, you will have difficulty acheving your full potential.

PEOPLE WILL COME THROUGH
as you shift your assumptions about other people and their performances, you will find that a shift will occur in their performances. this is partly the result of what you're expecting to find, but it's also coming from the notion that people will perform better when we believe they will. if you think objectively about the number of people that you encounter in the workplace, most do their jobs. most do come through. it's just that we may tend to focus on the times and the people who do not. this assumption is powerful for leaders and for coworkers.

IT'S PROBABLY NOT AS BAD AS I THINK
you've got that right. put your rational brain to work, and i'm sure you can come up with many scenarios that could be worse. this new assumption will get you through many difficult moments. besides, it will help you to move from your diaster-thinking to true problem-solving. if we are overcome by catastrophizing over a situation, it render our brains incapable of doing their best work.

I WILL SURVIVE
believe that, indeed, you will survive, even in the face of adversity. assuming that you are strong will make you stronger. the power behind this assumption is in knowing that your spirit is strong. we act what we believe.

TODAY WILL BE A GOOD DAY
facing each day with this assumption will statistically improve your reality. optimism may also improve life expectancy. in a five-year follow-up with patients in this heart surgery study, optimists, as compared to pessimists, were more likely to adhere to healthier habits such as using vitamins, eating less fatty foods, and enrolling in a cardiac rehabilitation program. the optimists had increased life expectancy because of these actions. therefore, thsi assumption will provide you with a new direction for your energy. why? because when you make this assumption, you suddenly have a renewed sense of how to spend your time and you enhance your sense of commitment to your tasks.

THIS IS TEMPORARY
recognizing that most problem situations are temporary makes it much easier to recover. if we believe that our distress will be forever, then coping with the problem amy seem overwhelming. assume, instead, that our problems will pass. this create an entirely different mindset regarding both the problem at hand and the future.

I HAVE POWER TO CHANGE MANY THINGS
when we assume power, our position changes from one of helplessness to one of control. sure, some things we can't control, but, for the most part, situations at work are among the things we can improve. the outcome may depend on the methods we use to intiate and execute that action, but, for the most part, people respond positively to others who take action to improve situations. career satisfaction in particular is stronger when people take responsibility for their situations. one of the traits of happy people is personal control. happy people believe they choose their own destinies.


16.28pm... done... sense of accomplishment... other than that think i can type faster a bit le... haha... though still can't type without looking at my keyboard... train ar... kk i go work le...

hmmm... later blog on... arr... nothing to blog now... coz blog as far as i read le... lol... cya...

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Acceptance
okie... here it is... Acceptance...

acceptance also allows you to enjoy the journey instead of always being concerned about the outcome. it's life; it isn't going to go exactly as planned. accept that and move on. we also have to accept that other people don't always behave as we expect either, and that, too, requires aceptance. we can't, nor should we try to, control other people. although we might have people interest at heart, we have to accept that not everyone wanted our help in succeeding. we need to accept that people have a right to make their own choices even if those choices could lead to termination.

acceptance is not about resignation. there is huge difference. those who are resigned may withdraw from life, believing that they can no longer make a difference. they feel impotent in the face of life. their energy is drained, as they believe they are unable to make a difference. acceptance is another matter. it allows people to spend their energy wisely. it allows them to evaluate where to spend their energy so they can make a difference and live their live's purpose and when they should just accept the situation as it is. acceptance allows people to know the difference so that they don't become depleted in trying to control things that are outside of their realm of power. acceptance helps people to set boundaries on their effort and energy. acceptance allows people to move on to where they can contribute wisely. acceptance can also lead to forgiveness, which is a powerful force of energy.

00.45am...

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Saturday, April 28, 2007

Journaling (Blogging)... hehe...
half an hour more before going to work... lets make full use of it...

writing is the path to awareness. i'm ot talking about anything fancy here. neither spelling nor gammer count. even logic doesn't count. i'm just talking about the act of putting words on paper. raw flow. it makes life clear. it forces us to clarify our intentons. it forces us to confront what bothers us. it forces us to face up to our inconsistencies. it forces us to take a stand. it forces us to know ourselves. write it down. yes, it's that important. the best advice i can possiblygive if you are imterested in developing greater emotional intelligence is to begin to journal every morning.

once we get those muddy, maddening, confusing thoughts on the page, we face our day with clearer eyes, we are more honest with ourselves and others, more centered, more spiritually at ease. journaling is about reflection. it is reflection at its finest. without reflection, there is no movement. without reflection it is possble to repeat the same mistakes without even realising that you are making them.

when you notice that the same lessons or the same problems keep recurring in your life, you must ask yourself, 'what is it that you haven't changed?' also, you must reread your journals to discover the progress, the repeated areas where we continually make the same mistakes, and for hints about secrets still to be uncovered.

only writing down in a journal gives you the opportunity to have access to the history of your inner thoughts. it's very powerful to have that kind of record in life.

just to add on... it also serve as a memory reminder... no matter how good our brains are, we can't possibly remember every details right... lol... by writing down it, at least it can help us recall... i keep journal, or rather diaries, that i uses them to help me take note of important memories... and it a meaningful thing to do... take out a few minutes of your time for a while and write ur life journey down now... and read it say a month later or a year later... u will find how much u have grew... and change... and no matter how sad when u write them down... when u read it again, u might find that it isn't that bad as you think it was... instead u might be that u find new prespective in life and happy that u have survived it... perhaps u might even laugh at urself for thinking and behaving the way u used to be... lol... ya... it happened to be me... lotz time... and it can happen to you... =P

17.01pm... Coming soon... Acceptance...

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只想爱你 - 楊丞琳
歌手:杨丞琳 专辑:暧昧



我终于还是说了一句我爱你
还记得那个微凉夜里
天空正飘着小雨
心跳的声音 像舞动奇迹

你看着我说千万不要爱上你
因为你只会让我伤心
别傻了快点喊停
你那么冷静 忽远又忽近

我知道我对你来说也许太年轻
我想我猜我问我终于了解
原来为爱流的眼泪
也是种甜蜜滋味

Chorus:

只想爱你

当我和你走在一起就已经决定
不看不听不问也不会放弃
是你让我了解自己
可以为爱那么坚定

只想爱你

好想每天睁开眼睛就能看到你
我知道我偶尔有一点任性
不管你做任何决定
究竟爱我还是逃避

SORRY 我还是不会放弃 爱你

X 2

SORRY 我还是不会放弃

Chorus

只想爱你

好想每天睁开眼睛就能看到你
我知道我偶尔有一点任性
不管你做任何决定
究竟爱我还是逃避

SORRY 我还是不会放弃
我还是不会放弃 爱你

14.36PM

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Friday, April 27, 2007

reflection
the skill to think back... the process of discovering wat u have done right or wrong...

00.58am... private time for myself to think... to understand...

13.00pm... began to understand wat is hijacking... i lose the ability to think, lose my purpose and intention... lol... oh well...

reflection is the rain and sunshine and the fertilizer that can turn life experience into wisdom. without reflection, our promising seeds of wisdom will die. with reflection, they will sprout and bear fruit that can be harvested and enjoyed daily. i know of no one area of life where this holds truer than in the area of emotional intelligence. sure, you can become a wiser gardener, a wiser cook, or a wiser mechanic with experience; the years are bound to teach you something. but to become a better parent, a better leader, a better person will require thoughtful reflection on these intangible acts that make up our human interactions. the measures are also more obsure in the latter. as i become more adroit in the kitchen, i know that i can handle a knife better than i did thirty years ago. i can see the result. yet how do i know that i am a better person?

life will provide us with ample opportunities to practice becoming better people, but reflection will help us decide what to do with those opportunities.

review and reflection of our daily interactions with others is our mental practice at becoming wiser. it is the opportunity to rewire our brains, to mentally practice different endings and to practice being our most inspired selves. it's all about reflecting on what went well and rehearsing to make the rest of it better. reflection is a wonderful way to get you closer to understanding your emotional reaction in the moment, which is the true mastery of emotional intelligence.

reflection is not about regret. sure, you will experience some regret as you reflect, but regret in and of itself is a useless emotion. you can use regret as a signal to ur brain that something requires improvement. beyond that, let it go. if you use your reflection time solely for regret, and you practice beating yourself up for your errors, you'll accomplish nothing other than to become better at self-degradation. this will not serve as a mean to greater emotional intelligence.

when we reflect, we must reflect on how others actually received the information or interaction, not what we intended for them to receive. let's say i decided to give you a lollipop. my intentions are good. i think it is something that is good to do. and feel good about doing it. so, i could go about this business of reflection feeling good about my decision to give you a lollipop. but the thing that i must consider is not how i felt about it, but how did you feel about receiving it? the 'fact' is how my intention was received. if you received it and were happy about it, then i have lived my intention. so reflection should take into consideration not only what your intentions were and how you felt about your actions, but more importantly, how did others who were on the receiving end of your intentions view your actions. i'm only suggesting that intentions alone are not enough. intentions executed into actions that others perceive in the manner in which we intend truly align us. and the only way to determine this is to reflect on how others receive our behavior.

14.05... reading through it makes me discover more about myself...

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Thursday, April 26, 2007

Humour and Pause
okie two posts... yesterday's and today's... actually i read faster than i post le... lol... good...

humour is a powerful force for changing perceptions, mood, and emotional reactions. developing a sense of humour about yourself and life's situations can help redirect your emotional response. although research is still quite limited, prelimary studies suggest that humour may change moods that produce changes in the body chemistry that promote healing. in pain, humour is reported to be a cognitive techique for increasing pain tolerance. we should use humour to separate the truly threatening from what's not truly threatening. learn to laugh at the day-to-day things and reserve seriousness for what is really tragic, coz we tend to blow things out of proportion.

for example, how often is something in the workplace truly tragic? yes, there have been serious and tragic incidences of workplace violence. but i'm toking about everyday incidents that people react to in a way that suggests disaster. too many people spend a dollar's worth of energy on a situation that is worth about a penny. if you look at the light side, find something humorous about your reaction, you may find that life is just easier.

we can allow humour to shed light on our shortcomings. and we must admit that sometimes our shortcomings and mistakes are downright hilarious. if we could just look from afar with a playful heart, we would see that at times we are truly ridiculous. sometimes, we are the most ridiculous when trying to be the most serious. step back and appreciate the humour of you. read the comics section in the newspaper, watch the lastest TV sitcom, or go to the movies. Laugh. identify with the characters. where can you see youself? which cartoon character exemplifies you at your most absurd? where can you laugh at yourself? the ability to laugh at our shortcomings and mistakes makes our spirit light. in lightness we can dance to greater height.

use humour as a way to redirect your thinking and to divert your potential hijacking. it's fun and harmless. people who attain this ability to laugh at themselves actually feel a greater sense of control of their lives, and when they feel this control, they are able to take responsibility. remember, the humour should be directed at you or at the situation that you find yourself in, not someone else. if not just imagine humour as private jokes within yourself. be sure they stay confined in the head.

23.49pm... coming next is the techique call pause... it provided time for ur mind to calm down and thinks logically and rationally...

1st, breathe. the techique is to close your mouth and count to eight while breathing in slowly and deeply through your nose. take your breath all the way down to your belly. place your hand on your belly and feel it expand like a balloon. gently let the air out through your mouth. repeat at least ten times.

2nd, there should be some physical movemen that you immediately can revert to as you breathe. examples include taking a long sip of coffee, removing glasses, adjusting your tie, getting up and stretching, or consciously shifting your body weight.

3rd, you should have a mantra that you can recite while breathing and performing the physical movement. that mantra should be uniquely yours and should be something that helps you shift your thoughts and gain perspective. "it's okay" "smilez" "are you willing to die for it?" are some examples of mantras. whatever your risk, whether it be anger or fear or some other emotions that hold you back from living your intentions, having a well-thought-out mantra will get you through some difficult moments.

the simple actions make up this step "Pause", a deep long breath, a shift in your physical movement, and a mantra, should be practiced and rehearsed until you can instantly revert to this pattern.

00.14am... just got my posting of NS today... going in on 15th June... into the arm of Commando... haha... my parents asked me why i choose such a 'xiong' choice... i told them that it is fun... haha... dun noe what i am thinking sia... i noe i not going to sign on definitely... i just wanna make the 2 years in there interesting and meaningful... since i am going to 'waste' 2 years might as well make it a good one... memories that will follow me for the rest of my life... be it happy, sad, tired, dirty, injured(hope not), dehydrated and watever emotions... and someday say to myself that i did it... yes i survived it... and be proud of myself... and let those that matters to me proud of me... i noe it not going to be a easy journey and i noe it going to be very draining both physically and mentally... going to miss my love ones... but still i am glad this is the route i chose... my life... my their way... my their rules =p

00.30am

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give myself a break today... hehe...

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! Ѓ0٨6 Vn٩L6λ -- LəJpnV 3٨07 !

01.39am

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Wednesday, April 25, 2007

confirmation bias
haha... i blogged at 00.00 am... okie... nothing special... hehe... nvm i happy can liao...


confirmation bias, which occurs when you look only for information to confirm your position and ignore any conflicting data. Let's say you are shopping for a car, and you're already leaning toward a particular brand. you will tend to focus on all of the positive information you hear or read about that brand and filter negative information that does not support your leaning.

the same bias occurs in our relationships with others. if we have already decided we like a particular person or coworker, we do not judge his or her behaviours as harsely as we may someone we like less. managers have been taught for years to be concerned with "the halo effect" when preparing employee ratings. the halo effect tends to filter perceptions so that the manager perceives only positive information because he or she had a positive bias toward the employee. no wonder claims of favoritism arises. likewise, if you view a particular coworker in a negative light sometimes called " the horn effect", you will look for information that confirms your bias. from an emotional intelligence point of view, this information can have an important impact that will set the stage for your encounters with that person. each encounter is an opportunity to prove your bias. and more often than not, this information will be based on first impressions that are difficult to overcome.


NS coming... haven get letter... only noe is between june to August... wanna find some work to do... so much time yet so little time... numb... living day by day... go club play with junior... fun but i guess time to stop it le ba... kind of not very constructive to 'waste' time like that... the late part of the month have come... cable bill coming le... no bus concession anymore... until NS... but to wan to have concession... so much easier to travel around... and can save so much $$... now beginning to understand leslie claim of travelling fee is high... then think go NS need to change plastic frame spec... coz mine is metal frame one... ... tired... think i go sleep le... 00.52am

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Tuesday, April 24, 2007

mood and dwelling
today shall post 2 topics... read quite alot in club today... before ppl start come in... then today raining suddenly in the afternoon no wonder so cold... haha...


mood is the underlying effect you experience. it sets the framework for how you may asses a particular stimulus. for instance, if you are in a good mood and you spill a cup of coffee, you may laugh and joke about a klutz. spilling a cup of coffee when you are in a bad mood may cause you to become angry, lash out, and blame your spouse for purchasing cups with handles too small for your fingers. moods tend to be more a state of mind, and certain moods may tend to characterize your personality. some people are characterized as generally sullen; others are more jovial. mood can be looked on as a more long-lasting characteristic,although moods can certainly change. mood, then, sets the stage for how you may react. more and more research suggests that a positive mood makes people more helpful and cooperative in the workplace. in also reduces aggressive behaviour.

so, your mood may certainly sffect your performance on the job. your emotional reaction often depends on your mood; therefore, your mood may predict your emotional reaction to certain events.

so stay happy, be happy... now for the part 2... dwelling... dun suffer from it...


dwelling set the stage for a variety of unwanted behaviours. let's say i dwell on a particular injustice. over and over again, i focus on and speak about how i was wronged. it consumes my thoughts and causes my "egregious injustice voice" to speak louder and louder. now, if some minor injustice occurs, such as being skipped at the deli counter, all of a sudden ia am hijacked. do you find yourself dwelling on things that could influence behaviours that take you away from your intention? in fact, this dwelling may cause you to expand the situation beyond your concerns. another example of dwelling may occur in grief. through the mask of grief, it is difficult to see or experience joy, yet the more we dwell on the loss, the more we experience the loss. experiencing loss is a healthy and important rite of passage, and it takes time to heal, but the difference is in remebering the loss for the joy and satisfaction that we gained, not just for the sorrow that it brings. in the workplace, if we dwell on a loss of status or position or lament the way things used to be, we will be trapped into comparing everthing that occurs unflavourably to the past. we will be confined to a joyless work life.


01.53am... okie time to sleep... yawnz...

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Monday, April 23, 2007

self-awareness and self-control
yoz... that is today topic... main point is that if u wan to improve ur life, everything starts from u before u can think about other thing... haha... anyway i not a pro or something like that in this stuff... i am also learning... haha... let learn together...


without self-awareness and control, it is difficult, if not impossible, to improve one's relationship with the outside world. for example, if i am not aware of my actions, thoughts, and words, i have no basis for self-understanding. if i have some awareness and self-understanding, then i can ask, what is my impact on others in my current state? if i find that impact to be negative and detracting from my life goals, i may choose to change my actions, thoughts, or words. in emotional intelligence, this change is what we call self-control. it is about knowing and then determining the appropriate volumn level and expression for our emotions. how can these emotions enhance our relationships with others and out life goals? how can they detract from them? thus, self-awareness and self-control are interwined, as self-awareness alone will be of little service without self-control.


just to add on... in life, whatever happened there is nothing good or bad, but how u think and precept it that make it so. an example is that when someone get 50 marks for a 100 marks test... he/she can be happy coz he/she passed... or he/she can be sad coz he/she almost fail... kind of like having a half-filled cup... will u be happy that u have half left or sad that u have half gone?

01.21am

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Saturday, April 21, 2007

EQ - part 2
this is to add on to yesterday post... kind of a continuation...

reflection on which behaviours are causing harm and inhibiting us from becoming who we intend to be serves an important purpose. none of this, however, can occur without thoughtful direction. glimpses of insight must be cultivated so that these moments will result in lessons truly learned. if not, these moments will fade quickly, and we will repeat our errors in the next encounter.

thoughtful and purposeful reflection can produce new learning. this new learning will eventually rewire our brain so that our emotional reactions are more in line with our intentions. that's not to say that we will never experience emotional hijacking, but rather that we will often be able to redirect a hijacking before it takes over en route to a land we don't care to visit. ... ... capitalizing on that experience opens tha path to greater emotional intelligence(EQ). accumulating these experiences create new pathways for our brain and reinforces behaviours that are more in line with our intentions.


PS:
emotional hijacking - process of emotion overrode values and intentions

01.38am

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Friday, April 20, 2007

EQ
got this from a book about emotional intelligence(EQ) that i will like to share... nothing special... just some theory that seemed useful... perhaps helps u to accept things in life better...

the emotional capacity of an individual can increase with age and life experiences. this capacity certainly includes the ability to manage oneself and one's relationships. For example, life experiences change not only the knowledge level but also the emotional wiring that contributes to people's maturity. given the normal path of development, a toddler and a teenager learn how to control impluses. as a result, emotional outbursts lessen as they mature. the same toddler and teenager are also accumulating life experiences in the hippocampus and the amygdala that contribute to their development. so their capacity for emotional intelligence(EQ) is actually increasing. take another example. many children have not experienced loss and its accompanying grief, so they may not fully understand these concepts. however, as we age and experience loss in our lives, we develop a greater capacity to understand our own experiences and to empathize with others who may be experiencing loss. in this way, our capacity increases and adds to our emotional intelligence(EQ). however, without reflection and purposeful direction, some of that capacity with surely be lost.

ps:
emotional intelligence quotient(E-IQ) - emotional quotient(EQ); Intelligence regarding the emotions, especially in the ability to monitor one's own or others' emotions; knowledge to manage oneself's and relationship with other so that we truly live our intention

hippocampus - a part of the brain that store the actual incident, including the time of day, what we were doing, or details of some strong emotional event.

amygdala - a part of the brain that store the feeling created by some strong emotional event.

02.32am... try to post others as i read the book...

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Thursday, April 19, 2007

eat shit for nothing...
okie... suddenly remember this scene in a sunday channel 8 children show... dun really remember the exact words... but the storyline is roughly there... the story goes...

there was a father who for some reason wanna tell a story to his son by giving him sweets if he listen to the story... so the kid say okie to the sweet... this is the story that was told to the kid... ...

"one day Mr A and Mr B came by a lump of shit... then Mr A say he is willing to give Mr B $100 if he is willing to eat the lump of shit... Mr B ate the shit and got the $100... and got a bad stomachache... days after, Mr A came to Mr B and ask if he could lend him $50... Mr B remembering the pain he went through, told Mr A that he will give him $100 instead without the need to pay back if he is willing to eat his shit... Mr A desperate for money agree to the idea and ate the shit and got the $100... and a bad stomachache... in the end, both of them ate shit for nothing... since the $100 offset itself... "

after listening to the story, the son told his father...
"so am i smart? i get to eat sweets and listen to free story..."


00.22...

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Tuesday, April 17, 2007

What have u learnt today?
okie i was bored on my way to SP... so wrote some crap on my way to school...

written on 27th march 07, 1.45pm...

i discovered that i love Singapore... nice weather... safe city... free from natural disaster and war... healthy and save to consume food and drink... i realised that the citizens basic requirements and necessities are already well taken care of... the country with no beggars... the country where as long as you are willing to work, u will not starve... green city and cosy city... good network of traffic, good network of internet... good bio-chem hospital... world-class airport... lotz of chiobus with all kind of different style... low crime rate... where u will feel safe to walk alone on a deserted street or alley... the city where the responsibility of most students is to study without the worry for finance... the country where there is singlish... the country where there is a diversify of races and colour... the country where car come with air-con... country where even bus come with air-con... fine city... people go law by law, rule by rule... but not for long... seemed to be evolving... lol... country where you can find entertainment easily though not very entertaining... and expensive... country where the cost of living is reasonably high... country where poor family dare to enjoy expensive living... not very good... but it is possible... the country where u can travel from end to end in 2 hours...

2.30pm


that's all... any comments pls tag... but mind ur language... otherwise pls keep comments to urself...

01.06am

PS: the above script is based on personal thoughts... should it offend anyone or anything in anyplace or anyhow... pls dun fine me... i will change the content... thz...

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Wednesday, April 11, 2007

knowing myself better?
arr... stunned... wat to do? calm down a bit... sleep early...

Your Love Type: INFJ

The Protector

In love, you strive to have the perfect relationship.
For you, sex is nearly a spiritual experience, a bonding of souls.

Overall, you have high expectations for any relationship you're in.
However, you tend to hold back a part of yourself.

Best matches: ENTP and ENFP


hmmm... protector?











... ... ...




You Would Do Most Things For Love



You are willing to go pretty far for love - but not far enough to compromise your core values.

Love is a priority for you, and you'll go further than most people to hold on to someone you love.

But killing for love? Or even taking a bullet? Probably out of the question.

No matter what, you love yourself the most!



o_O




You Should Be a Painter



You have the vision, patience, and skill to bring your unique visions to canvas.

And you're even tempered enough not to cut your ear off in the process!



didn't noe i can paint...




Your Element Is Water



A bit of a contradiction, you can seem both lighthearted and serious.

That's because you're good at going with the flow - but you also are deep.



Highly intuitive, you tune in to people's emotions and moods easily.

You are able to tap into deep emotional connections and connect with others.



You prefer a smooth, harmonious life - but you can navigate your way around waves.

You have a knack for getting people to get along and making life a little more peaceful.



Aquarius... lol...




You Have a Melancholic Temperament



Introspective and reflective, you think about everything and anything.

You are a soft-hearted daydreamer. You long for your ideal life.

You love silence and solitude. Everyday life is usually too chaotic for you.



Given enough time alone, it's easy for you to find inner peace.

You tend to be spiritual, having found your own meaning of life.

Wise and patient, you can help people through difficult times.



At your worst, you brood and sulk. Your negative thoughts can trap you.

You are reserved and withdrawn. This makes it hard to connect to others.

You tend to over think small things, making decisions difficult.



haha... emo-kid...




You Are Bold And Brave



But daring? Not usually?

You tend to like to make calculated risks.

So while you may not be base jumping any time soon...

You are up for whatever's new and (a little) exciting!






Your Mind is PG-13 Rated



Your mind is definitely a little dirty. You're naughty, but not trashy.

You don't shy away from a dirty joke, and you're clearly not a prude.



pg-13? should be NC 16 or M-18 in local content ba...




You Are The Empress



You represent the ideal female figure: beauty and nurturing.

You bring security and harmony to many.

At times, you are also a very sensual person.

You are characterized by love, pleasure, and desire.



Your fortune:



You need to take some time to think about the role of commitment in your life.

It's possible you need to commit more to others, or deal with how others have treated you.

It is very important for you to support your friends and family right now, difficult as it may be.

You may need to look at your relationship with your mother, or your relationships as a mother.



love this quiz... coz is the easier... haha... one qns...
commitment in life... good qns...




You Are Pretty Happy Being Single



You have a full, fun life. And you definitely don't need love to be content.

Of course, being single can get you down a little. Especially when you've been single for a while.

But you know how to be patient and wait for the right person. You're life is too good to settle for anything!



lol...




You Are Incredibly Logical



Move over Spock - you're the new master of logic

You think rationally, clearly, and quickly.

A seasoned problem solver, your mind is like a computer!



only smartie have the answer...




Your Love Element Is Metal



In love, you inspire and respect your partner.

For you, love is all about fusing together for one incredible life experience.



You attract others with wit and a bit of flash.

Your flirting style is defined by making others want and value you.



Greatness and optimism are the cornerstones of your love life.

You may let go too easily, but you never get weighed down by your past.



You connect best with: Earth



Avoid: Fire



You and another Metal element: will control and smother each other



cool... cold...




The Keys to Your Heart



You are attracted to obedience and warmth.



In love, you feel the most alive when your lover is creative and never lets you feel bored.



You'd like to your lover to think you are optimistic and happy.



You would be forced to break up with someone who was ruthless, cold-blooded, and sarcastic.



Your ideal relationship is lasting. You want a relationship that looks to the future... one you can grow with.



Your risk of cheating is zero. You care about society and morality. You would never break a commitment.



You think of marriage something you've always wanted... though you haven't really thought about it.



In this moment, you think of love as commitment. Love only works when both people are totally devoted.



another commitment...




You Have Your Emotions in Check



You are an incredibly stable and happy person.

Ever consider being a therapist?

You have figured out how to keep a positive outlook, no matter what.

You don't have an easier life than anyone else. You just have figured things out a little more.



??? ain't i an emo person?




The Part of You That No One Sees



You are compassionate, caring, and soothing.

You like other people to depend on you...

In fact, you don't feel right unless you are helping someone out.



Underneath it all, you feel the burden of everyone's problems.

Without your guidance, you fear that many people's worlds would fall apart.

You like to feel in charge, even if it brings you a lot of stress.



... how true ...

wah... done so much... okie stop here for now... it flooding my post...

00.36am...

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Tuesday, April 10, 2007

SD camp...
finally wan to blog... haha... actually can blog sooner but lazy la...

1st day... gather in school plaza... ice breaking... played games and did forfeit... seniors weak... did lotz forfeit... throw face sia... haha... nvm... happy can liao... lunch... that was last min prepared coz 'chicken talk' not open on 'good friday'... and massing IC no go cater... nvm... at least he bought back the food in time... so still okie... then the bus came late... hence continue to sing and cheer... okie fine... group bonding loh... then finally the bus came and went to changi camp... on the bus sleep through the whole journey... coz very tired... really not enough sleep... though i might look very hyper... lol... then reached camp and took a free ride from Mr bus-uncle to go work at WS's father there... thankfully got bus if not surely late... with the bus we arrived at 4.30... which is 1 and 1/2 hour earlier than my actual work time so slack abit and watch TV... then 'good friday' a lot of ppl come makan... busy ar... rush... 11 pm went off with WS taking BAO's car to bishan mrt... left auntie 1 ppl wipe plate... bad... then took mrt down... alight at bedok take cab... coz abit scare tanan merah and expo atation no taxi... wah then the taxi driver average speed 100km/hr... fast sia... but went wrong way... went to changi village... diao... so took the behind airport mini express way... and yeah... we finally arrived... in time for shim and disco nite... wah WIND noe how to MC sia... nice... but the disco nite not very successful... coz freshie not very hyper and OC, GL and helpers mainly self-high... then music very soft to reach the end of the room... haiz... then tried to 'high' the freshie by doing 'train' and bring in a table for table dance... good effort but seemed not enough... in the end... let the freshies go sleep early... leaving a few enthu. one stay behind continue to dance... then debrief... apparently they also realised most of the cock-up and problems... so i didn't say much... if u think i say a lot... everyone tired... but we still have 2 more days to improve...

02.17am

2nd day... started with cheers to get their food... not bad... then went to play balloon fight... haha... not bad... strangely freshies a bit smart huh... noe how to hide in a corner... wait for other to kill one other first before they go finish the other... hmmm... spy? good game... but play abit too long? coz those who die earlier a bit bored huh... lol... then captain ball... good start... everyone seemed high... until GLs vs Helpers... think freshies bored liao... then last part still got wat OC vs Helpers... diao... the camp is for who?... then went lunch while WS and i make our way off... walked out and regreted it... very long walk arr... the took cab to WS's house... sleep though the journey again... then at WS's house ate lotus rice and drank milk and herbal tea... best meals... WS even have time to play DOTA and slept for 2 hours i think... oops... ppl suffering we enjoying ourself... then wait for BAO's car... go work... saturday also a lot of ppl... but is early crowd so still not bad at least can help wipe plate a bit... if not very paisei to the aunt... 11pm go off... took bus to SP... in time for nite walk... then for some reasons the freshies very hyper... like siao-gi-na (crazy kids)... very high... then 1 group by 1 go off those at the back still very awake coz play game all the way... can take note... it a good way to keep freshie entertained... at least not letting them sleep or feel sian... good job GLs... though the nite walk a bit problem here and there... overall it went off smoothly... 3 cheers to all... slept at sport hall coz no take key from cynthia on thur... didn't foresee that... my fault...

02.38am

3rd day... supposingly should wake up at 9.30... but woke up at 8am coz other camp ppl very noisy... shower cold water at swimming pool there... yes cold water... coz think the heater not open... nvm... doesn't matter... then went back to sport hall there... saw Topaz's freshie sitting there chatting... either they are very hyper or they also can not sleep... haha... so join in and sing songs and played lotz games... then went FC 5 have breakfast... ate 1 piece bread... and a few pieces biscuits... then everyone have a A4 paper attached on the back and begin writing testimonies... not bad idea... then break camp... went to clementi mac makan with some freshies along with OCs, GLs and Helpers... then play pool for those who still dun wanna go home... WS and me played for a while and took cab down to work... coz will be late if take bus... lol... should have left earlier... for some reason, the ppl coming to eat is very little... so early clear up and early went home... on the way home... started to emo... time really flies... all camps is over... is like this moment is prep camp... the next moment the FO camp is already over...

02.58

today... supposingly planned to go down club and do my treasurer stuff but slept very late... woke up at 1pm and lazy to go down club liao... anyway the key also not with me so a bit scare later go so far down then club not open... haiz... then read sms... then saw WZ msg me 9+ in the morning... stunned... lol... paisei... i silent mode my phone... then he call me ask whether wan go watch movies... so i anything loh... 3.30 left home go eat lunch and slowly drink my teh-o... the took mrt down... reached suntec at 4.45pm... early so play my favorite 'X-men vs Street fighters'... haha... then get top score for both machine... haha... not i pro but no ppl play... lol... then met WS, WZ, AUD, Hameed and shiting... (in sequence by face i saw...) then went cineleisure... hope there will be more shows as compared to suntec... on the way, Ms AUD did some stunt which i shall not say... go read WZ's blog... then we decided to watch 'reaping' at 7.35pm... some kind of exocism show... not very nice... but rather educational... haha... actually the show not important la... hehe... then walked down to eat chicken rice at selegie there... then follow by 'tuo-hua'... then went home at round 11.15pm... overslept my stop... lol... luckily still have bus to take back to my house...

03.15am... sleeping time...

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Thursday, April 05, 2007

the never ending story...
am i judging from recent performances? dun think i have halo-error... i am with him for a sememter... not just FO camp... that how it is now... perhaps i am the only 1 bother to voice it out... get the idea? nevertheless... he is a good leader that can be trained... anyway he is improving... 3 more days of opportunities to really show... and 1 week to see how he settle the post-camp stuff before the sememter start... end of story...

next... been through BE camp... a bit disorganised in wat they wan... but good team spirit... and the camp is improving as each day past by... luv last day, through no go out and makan together... lotz new games and programme, like the newspapers-finding game... easy to prepare, fun to play... good high spirit maintainer...

camp chief - good entertainer... effort in keeping ur smile acknowledged...
asst. C.C. - sick most of the time... no comment...
coordinator - okie... tough job... bad coor. but understandable...
secretary - nil... unable to judge from camp
treasurer - nil... unable to judge from camp (food not enough... hmmm...)
logistic - good job... think all stuff get to place on time...
game ICs - very good in conducting their games... game mistress smile more...
massing - err well... try to order more food... be on time...
GLs - great jobs... every year the same... easiest job?
helper - sai-ga (shit job) warriors... thank to all and effort...
senior - chaleting again... haha... lol... own time own target... easiest easiest job...

tml is SD camp... part 2 of my FO camp maraton... hmmm... expect to help cheer alot in between programmes making camper high... hope not... the camper can be tired but must not be sian... must keep them busy... keep their mind occuplied...

20.25pm

personal stuff... to ms audrey... dun really wan to tok about it in my blog... i am also a bit messed up... i am indecisive... haven really go and think about wat i wan... NS coming... still waiting for the sudden letter... things is still so unsettled... love is not just a game for two...

for now i am treating u as a friend, though i dun deny i still have feeling for u... i noe someone also 'eyeing' u... and noe who he is... but i guess there should be more than us two... lol... doesn't matter... anyway clem and WS have told me about the 'hints' u gave me which i didn't notice... long time back... during that period, on one side i wanna let u noe they have told me... on the other side, dun wanna make things even complicated... in the end, i did the easier way out - escape from reality... lived my life day by day... taking things a step at a time... let nature take it course... then a unexpected msn... dun noe wat to say to u... then came SD camp... back to reality... no hiding anymore... going to face u... so far so good... not making any special effort to impress u watsoever... just be me... and u is just another of my female friend... doesn't matter... let see how things go...

21.22pm

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Monday, April 02, 2007

只对你有感觉 - Hebe & 飞轮海
歌手:Hebe & 飞轮海 专辑:飞轮海



飞:
无解的眼神 心像海底针
光是猜测 我食欲不振
有点烦人 又有点迷人

H:
浪漫没天份 反应够迟钝
不够谨慎 花挑错颜色
但很矛盾 喜欢你的笨

Chorus:
飞: 微笑 再美 再甜 不是你的 都不特别
H : 眼泪 再苦 再咸 有你安慰 又是晴天
飞: 靠的 再近 再贴 少了拥抱 就算太远
合: 全世界只对你有感觉

飞: 玩的 再疯 再野 你瞪一眼 我就收敛
H : 马路 再宽 再远 只要你牵 就很安全
飞: 我会 又乖 又黏 温柔体贴 绝不敷衍
合: 我只对你有感觉

飞:
体贴却黏人 爱哭却温顺
有时天真 有时很邪恶
对你耍狠 就是舍不得

H:
请吸收养分 让脑袋平衡
要你现身 动作慢吞吞
怎麽承认 我非你不可

Chorus x2

23.48pm

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